First off, I hope you’ll forgive me for my little break! I feel like I’m blaming more and more on this over the past few weeks, but I injured my right arm and working it too hard gets awfully painful after too long. It’s on the mend, but it still hurts. Hopefully, I’ll be back on my 1-2 posts a week schedule before long – thanks for sticking with me!
We’re back with this week’s #SecondLifeChallenge from Strawberry Singh, and it’s on an exciting, heartbreaking, breathtaking, uplifting, blissfully happy topic that also weighs in as soul-crushing and the number one seller of ice cream pints in the world – Love and Dating.
Let’s go to the questions!
Do you date in Second Life?
Absolutely – I love it! I love going out with someone interesting, whether it be sharing an SL interest like sailing or surfing or visiting art galleries, going dancing, checking out a musical performance, or even just exploring a pretty sim. There’s such a wonderful, exciting energy to dating; it’s full of potential and electricity and it’s never boring.
Share some locations in Second Life that you think are ideal to go to on a date.
I’ll share two. The first is Frank’s. Nota bene: Frank’s is a private club and the cost to join isn’t cheap. When I first joined it was 500L, it’s now up at 1,000L. Is that a lot? Absolutely. Is it worth it? If you ask me, yes. The sim is beautiful, the music and DJ’s are top notch, it’s the perfect spot for two people looking to spend some time together to get dressed to the nines and go dance, sit and talk, people-watch, or just walk about this really lovely sim.
Two is Virtual Ephemera. Ephemera is free, but that doesn’t make it any less special. There is SO much to do at Ephemera, and exploring it with a date is exciting and fun. There are plenty of places to stop and sit for a talk (or…something) and there are often DJs at the multiple party spots at the sim.
Share a story of one of your favorite dates/proposals you’ve experienced in Second Life, or something someone has done for you that meant a lot.
The woman I’d been seeing had found out I liked riding motorcycles and suggested a specific route for an outing. We put on some riding gear and went for a ride across a sim I’d never visited. It was lovely: grassy meadows and trees surrounding a narrow road. After 15 minutes or so she suggested pulling over to take a break. We went offroad to this small hill overlooking a small lake where she’d left a picnic blanket, basket, and a plushy unicorn. Even though she and I have parted ways, I still have the unicorn.
Have you ever fallen in love in Second Life?
I have. It’s very different because on an intellectual level I knew full well this ‘ended’ when I logged out of Second Life, but it didn’t stop it from creeping into my mind even when I was nowhere near the grid. Musing over something we’d done together or something we’d planned for the future. I knew this wasn’t an RL relationship of any kind – I didn’t want it to be. It didn’t stop it from being immensely powerful and terribly painful when I realized it was over.
Have you ever gotten partnered or married in Second Life?
Once. I still adore my partner, and we spend a lot of time together, but ultimately a formal partnership wasn’t a great choice for either one of us. I think I’ll keep the details to myself, but just say my partner and I are much better as very close friends than as partners.
I’ve gotta run – I have a date! I’m being taken to an art exhibit. Wish me luck!
What I’m Wearing:
In the tub…
Towel: Amara by erratic
Hair: Tiana by TRUTH
Tub: Mesh Bathtub by PrimPossible
On the town…
Dress: Iris by PiZazz (MP Only)
Hair: Fallon by Moon
Top: Kawaii Top by Candy Crunchers
Jeans: Sammy by Blueberry
Boots: Sammy Boots by Blueberry
Hair: Mary by FABIA
Shopping and cute clothes and fun items in Second Life really do make it for me. It’s the ultimate Barbie, complete with dream house, glam convertible, even Malibu Ken/Kim. Luxe Box made that into this fun surprise social event; I’d get together with friends in the same room or in the Luxe Box group, squeal excitedly when our boxes arrived, and then gush and share pictures about the new outfits we’d put together. Luxe Box was great – it was like Christmas and Margarita night where I walked away each month with tons of cute clothes, shoes, hair, accessories, furniture, and even little pets.
Luxe Box officially announced this past week they were closing up shop after an almost two-year run. I felt like what better way to say goodbye to something that has been such a fun and fulfilling part of my Second Life than by taking a few pictures.
I’m wearing some jeans from Blueberry that were in the September 2016 box. I remember being SO excited that Blueberry was participating that month AND when it turned out to be this fantastic pair I was overjoyed. These were my go-to jeans for a long, long time, and I still wear them quite frequently. One of these days I’ll get some pictures shot that really show them off, beacuse they make my legs and my backside look fantastic. I’ve paired them with a cami from Foxes from the February 2016 box. This cami looks just cute AF with jeans, but I’ve worn it a lot with skirts and, occasionally, with just a pair of undies for some playful boudoir-ish pictures.
The shoes, however, are far and away the most worn item I’ve ever received from a Luxe Box. These wedges from Reign are super cute and I wear them at least twice a week, and since they come in literally dozens of textures they never get boring. For the first few pictures, I’m sitting in a cape wagon from Tarte – I believe this was in the November 2017 Luxe Box, but I’m not 100% certain on that. What I am certain about is it’s a wonderfully romantic spot to curl up with someone special…and if you’ve got more on your mind than curling up, well, Tarte has you covered there too.
It may sound a bit silly, but I’m going to miss Luxe Box so much. This wasn’t just an exciting monthly surprise of lots of cute clothes and such (although that was a big part of it), it was this neat community bound together by sharing our experiences with our common interest. That’s what I’ll miss the most. Adios, Luxe Box. Thanks for two wonderful years, countless outfits, hairs, and housing items, and a little Corgi named Simon.
So let’s not end on a down note – let’s end on one with a little promise for everyone who maybe didn’t participate in Luxe Box. While Luxe Box was going on, designers had to agree they would not sell anything they contributed to Luxe Box. Now that Luxe Box has turned out the lights, ALL of those cute clothes and hairs are fair game to be sold. I think we’re going to see an influx of some really great stuff available for the first time to folks who maybe never tried out Luxe Box, and that’s exciting! I’m happy for folks who maybe never got a chance to wear the best wedges on the grid or some truly magnificent jeans. That is a silver lining I can get behind.
What I’m Wearing:
Top: Romantic Cami by Foxes
Jeans: Luxe Box September by Blueberry
Shoes: Stacey Wedges by REIGN
Hair: Boyfriend by Lamb
So there’s another one of these like right below this, so I hope you check it out too, but let’s go! Today’s(being Monday, December 18) #SecondLifeChallenge from my hero, Strawberry Singh, goes something like this:
Here are the instructions for the #SecondLifeChallenge this week: Share a picture or video of a winter scene in Second Life. Tell us a bit about the location and/or what you are wearing.
Like Cary Elwes (who looked SO hot in this movie) said, “As you wish.”
I’m at the Garden of Whimsy Winter Wonderland, which has everything a winter explorer could desire – ice skating, snow, sleighs, beautiful trees and some wonderfully colorful and festive light displays. I spent the evening exploring and had a fantastic time.
I’m wearing a turtleneck sweater from the Paper Arrow, which came in the December Luxe Box! If you remember, the November box was something of a disappointment for me, but December has REALLY made up for it. I’m working on another set of pictures wearing some of my favorites from December, look for that post soon!
So after all that exploration in the cold while wearing a really, really weather-inappropriate denim miniskirt, I returned home to find my close friend, Danni, under the Christmas tree for a romantic cuddle. I don’t know that I can think of a better way to wrap up an evening spent exploring the winter wonderlands of Second Life.
What I’m wearing:
Sweater: Cozy Turtleneck by Paper Arrow Co (December 2017 Luxe Box)
Skirt: Denim Skirt by Blueberry (January 2017 Luxe Box)
Boots: Autumn by REIGN
Hair: Irenka by Truth
A month ago I raved about how I’ve never been disappointed by my monthly Luxe Box. I got up on my soap box and preached that it was always awesome, and always money well spent. I unboxed mine last night and…things changed.
Fair play, this is my personal opinion, and a lot of this might change if you live a different SL than I do. I imagine quite a few of us thought November’s box was the bee’s knees, and I’m really happy for you all! It just didn’t do it for me.
I want to start with the high notes though because there were a few bright spots.
My top and earrings are from Pretty Mess – while it’s a bit simple, I think the texturing is really lovely and it has a unique and alluring slit up either side. The earrings are very different and creative. I definitely will be wearing them. My hair is by Lamb, and I really love ponytails. The accompanying style HUD on the Lamb hair provides for a ponytail that hangs to either side or down the back at either shoulder length or down to mid-back. My only quibble is the hair makes my forehead look kind of gigantic, but adding these bangs from Truth addressed that fairly well. I could see this becoming a semi-regular hair for me.
And that’s it. I don’t want to point fingers or name names or get into details – if you want to chat that out with me in world, drop me an IM. Still, whether it was a lack of features, imagination, or just plain not being my style/fitting my needs, this Luxe Box didn’t deliver the way nearly every other Luxe Box has.
Will this drive me away from my monthly Luxe Box? Of course not! I’ll be right there on December 1 rejoining the group. No one succeeds 100% of the time, and I don’t mind riding along through a rough patch. I’d be willing to be December’s Luxe Box will be a real gem and this unfortunate misstep will be all but forgotten.
What I’m Wearing:
Top: Lily Split Tube by Pretty Mess (Luxe Box)
Jeans: DWL by Blueberry
Shoes: Kerria by #EMPIRE (Luxe Box)
Earrings: All-Seeing Earring by Pretty Mess (LuxeBox)
Where I’m Sitting:
Bench: Luxe Bench by Fancy Decor (LuxeBox)
My blogging mentor and inspiration (whether she knows it or not), Strawberry Singh, is taking a short break from her blog. I really hope she’ll be back soon. Since I wanted to keep up with the #SecondLifeChallenge, I went back through some of her old challenges and picked out one that sounded fun. It’s based on one of my favorite drinking games, Never Have I Ever. If you’re not familiar, each player takes a turn stating something they haven’t done (usually something tawdry or untoward) and everyone else in the group who has done the tawdry or untoward activity mentioned has to drink.
I’ll wait while you all go pour some tequila shots and then we’ll continue…
Go on now…
- Never have I ever had sex, in Second Life. Oh no. I have. Often. Usually more than once a week. Sex is fun! I can’t help it.
- Never have I ever visited a sex sim, in Second Life. – I’ve done this too. I visit the Keyhole and the Public Shower on occasion. There are a number of clubs and beaches that don’t specifically self-identify as a sex sim, but given the ‘meat-market’ atmosphere and the amount of public sex that goes on, there isn’t much difference.
- Never have I ever been an escort or stripper, in Second Life. – And now I’m three for three. I recently returned to my position as a dancer and escort at Bare Assets. And you should go there, even if it’s just to hang out. While I’m not necessarily trying to shill for the club at which I work, everyone there is really nice and it’s a fun atmosphere. That and my boss and colleagues are out of this world gorgeous and some of my best SL friends. (Love to Crezi & co.!)
- Never have I ever been in porn videos in Second Life. – Yay! I get a temporary reprieve from the drinking! I’ve never done porn videos. (I’ve been in a fair amount of pictures that are little more than porn, but never a video.)
- Never have I ever done things that may be illegal in the real world, in Second Life. – Pass the lime. I’ve enjoyed some mind-altering substances in SL of which the local law enforcement would not approve.
- Never have I ever created an ALT for secret activities, in Second Life. – Well…yes and no. It wasn’t for secret, illicit activities. It was just to try out something different in SL that I could never do with Keyli. I actually kind of miss it.
- Never have I ever had a one night stand, in Second Life. – See answers 1 and 2. I’m running out of salt.
- Never have I ever been part of a roleplay community, in Second Life. – Not necessarily a community, but I would REALLY like to. I’ve kind of experimented as a temporary visitor in a few roleplay sims, but I’m just not ready to completely commit to it – I just don’t have the time.
- Never have I ever discovered a new fetish, because of Second Life. – I have. And, no, I’m not going into it.
- Never have I ever done things in Second Life that I wouldn’t admit to my friends or family. – All. The. Time. I would say my First Life friends and family know about 1% of what goes on here in my SL.
So that’s, say, 7.5 out of 10. After more than seven tequila shots I would be on the floor, and the hangover would be brutal. So what’s your score? Are you more think than I drunk you are?
What I’m wearing:
Top: Romy by Blueberry
Skirt: Kyla by Blueberry
Bra: Peek-A-Boo by Reborn
Shoes: Dolly Plats by REIGN
Hair: Scout by Truth
In the category of ‘something-else-weird-about-my-SL’, I get a strange satisfaction about going to the gym or getting out the yoga mat at home. Of course, I know this isn’t going to improve my avi’s health or help her trim her tummy or anything along those lines. I suppose the feeling is not unlike the sense of accomplishment I get when going to the gym in my First Life, only without the spin class guy yelling at me.
Even though I probably wouldn’t wear a track jacket for yoga on the deck, I couldn’t resist putting this one on because it is cute with a capital AF. This is from Belzebubble at this month’s 4Mesh event, which ends December 1. It comes with a nearly infinite array of colors, with a HUD allowing you to change the jacket color, the trim, the sleeves, the metals – I love that! The shorts are an old standby for me, Sylvia by Blueberry. When I wear older clothes by my favorite designers like Blueberry, Vinyl, Addams, PiZaZZ, Kaithleen’s, Insanya, or a big laundry list of others, I see exactly how far they’ve come. Not that their older clothing is poor, far from it – I love these shorts! I’m just saying their newer releases are out-of-this-world amazing. I can’t wait to see the future in clothing in Second Life.
Annnnnnnd this is how nearly all of my First Life workout sessions end, so why not SL as well? Who doesn’t love a nice nap?
What I’m Wearing:
Top: Track Jacket by Belzebubble at 4Mesh
Shorts: Sylvia by Blueberry
Shoes: Sneaker! by ROC
Hair: Tegan by Oleander
Yoga Mat: Yoga Mat Lazy Life by Chez Moi
I mentioned in a recent #SecondLifeChallenge that I actually put myself into something resembling PJs when I go to sleep. I know it’s a bit of a strange habit, but I love the immersion of it. It really does put a nice punctuation mark at the end of an evening in Second Life.
I’m wearing a tank from Vinyl, which is beautiful in its simplicity. I think it has a wonderful visual feel, and while this texture was exclusive to the ForMax event, the top is available in numerous others at Vinyl.
My leggings are from Blueberry, and were the subject of a little controversy there – as much as leggings could be a source of controversy. Blueberry put out another set of similar leggings earlier in the year, and there were some customers upset that a new one was released. Honestly, I don’t understand what all the fuss was about. If you’re not happy with a release, save your money and don’t buy it. These new leggings made my bootie look AMAZING and were great as sleepwear or to about any casual affair. I’m getting plenty of wear out of mine.
I may have had a little company…
What I’m wearing
Top – Tolman by Vinyl
Leggings – Poppy by Blueberry
Hair – Athena by TRUTH
(Rainbow friendship bracelet from BOOM! and Piercings from PUNCH)
Not long ago…like a few weeks, maybe, I wrote this:
I have a bit of Bento Head anxiety, and it’s ironic because it is for many of the same reasons I had Mesh Head anxiety in the first place. I remember being afraid I’d “lose my look”… I’m worried that if I do pick up a Bento Mesh head I will lose my current look. That said, however, part of me wonders if it would be a similar experience – would I find a head/shape/skin that I felt captured “me” better than my current look?
Sooooo…after a (very) small personal financial windfall, spending an hour teeming with envy over my friend’s GORGEOUS new visage, and a third glass of wine, I steeled myself and ported to Lelutka, resolved that it was time to retire my lovely, but behind-the-times, Catwa Tumble mesh head and move forward. I bought a stack of lindens and sallied forth.
Over the next four hours, I demo’d seven heads from three different creators, three shapes, and four skins before finding one with which I really connected. One that was not me, but still me. I can liken it to hearing one’s voice recorded live – I can identify that it’s me speaking, but it sure doesn’t sound the way I hear it.
When the dust settled and the money was spent this is where I wound up:
Okay, so, this is with very little makeup and the shape still needs a little work, but when I look at this I don’t see someone who isn’t me – I see an evolution of my avatar, and for my money that’s Bento Mission Accomplished.
Speaking of makeup, I never realized how much Catwa applier makeup I have…I need to go shopping.
A little celebration dance on the deck of my Bandit 60 sailboat, christened the Nauti Animations!
The new look:
Head: Greer by Lelutka
Skin: Paris by YS&YS
What I’m wearing:
Top: Janelle ‘Pretty As Fuck’ by erratic
Jeans: DWL by Blueberry
Hair: Rumor by TRUTH
Bracelets: Friendship Bracelets by BOOM (of course!!!)
Earrings: Abigail by Amala
(The shape is a massaged version of the default combined with my previous shape.)
It’s going to take a while to gaze into the virtual mirror and see that face looking back; for a while I’m sure I will feel like I’m living in the wrong body (or at least the wrong face). I’m utterly certain of one thing, however, and that’s that I LOVE this look! And the animations! OMG when I wink or make a little face or smile or frown – it’s almost TOO human.
How did I do?
PS: This week’s #SecondLifeChallenge from Strawberry Singh has to do with creating a scary Halloween avatar, and I’m not a big fan of scary, so I’m going to skip this week. I’ll be back next week!