First off, I hope you’ll forgive me for my little break! I feel like I’m blaming more and more on this over the past few weeks, but I injured my right arm and working it too hard gets awfully painful after too long. It’s on the mend, but it still hurts. Hopefully, I’ll be back on my 1-2 posts a week schedule before long – thanks for sticking with me!
We’re back with this week’s #SecondLifeChallenge from Strawberry Singh, and it’s on an exciting, heartbreaking, breathtaking, uplifting, blissfully happy topic that also weighs in as soul-crushing and the number one seller of ice cream pints in the world – Love and Dating.
Let’s go to the questions!
Do you date in Second Life?
Absolutely – I love it! I love going out with someone interesting, whether it be sharing an SL interest like sailing or surfing or visiting art galleries, going dancing, checking out a musical performance, or even just exploring a pretty sim. There’s such a wonderful, exciting energy to dating; it’s full of potential and electricity and it’s never boring.
Share some locations in Second Life that you think are ideal to go to on a date.
I’ll share two. The first is Frank’s. Nota bene: Frank’s is a private club and the cost to join isn’t cheap. When I first joined it was 500L, it’s now up at 1,000L. Is that a lot? Absolutely. Is it worth it? If you ask me, yes. The sim is beautiful, the music and DJ’s are top notch, it’s the perfect spot for two people looking to spend some time together to get dressed to the nines and go dance, sit and talk, people-watch, or just walk about this really lovely sim.
Two is Virtual Ephemera. Ephemera is free, but that doesn’t make it any less special. There is SO much to do at Ephemera, and exploring it with a date is exciting and fun. There are plenty of places to stop and sit for a talk (or…something) and there are often DJs at the multiple party spots at the sim.
Share a story of one of your favorite dates/proposals you’ve experienced in Second Life, or something someone has done for you that meant a lot.
The woman I’d been seeing had found out I liked riding motorcycles and suggested a specific route for an outing. We put on some riding gear and went for a ride across a sim I’d never visited. It was lovely: grassy meadows and trees surrounding a narrow road. After 15 minutes or so she suggested pulling over to take a break. We went offroad to this small hill overlooking a small lake where she’d left a picnic blanket, basket, and a plushy unicorn. Even though she and I have parted ways, I still have the unicorn.
Have you ever fallen in love in Second Life?
I have. It’s very different because on an intellectual level I knew full well this ‘ended’ when I logged out of Second Life, but it didn’t stop it from creeping into my mind even when I was nowhere near the grid. Musing over something we’d done together or something we’d planned for the future. I knew this wasn’t an RL relationship of any kind – I didn’t want it to be. It didn’t stop it from being immensely powerful and terribly painful when I realized it was over.
Have you ever gotten partnered or married in Second Life?
Once. I still adore my partner, and we spend a lot of time together, but ultimately a formal partnership wasn’t a great choice for either one of us. I think I’ll keep the details to myself, but just say my partner and I are much better as very close friends than as partners.
I’ve gotta run – I have a date! I’m being taken to an art exhibit. Wish me luck!
What I’m Wearing:
In the tub…
Towel: Amara by erratic
Hair: Tiana by TRUTH
Tub: Mesh Bathtub by PrimPossible
On the town…
Dress: Iris by PiZazz (MP Only)
Hair: Fallon by Moon
Top: Kawaii Top by Candy Crunchers
Jeans: Sammy by Blueberry
Boots: Sammy Boots by Blueberry
Hair: Mary by FABIA
My blogging muse, Strawberry Singh, posted a new #SecondLifeChallenge this week, and it goes a little something like this:
Here are the instructions for the #SecondLifeChallenge this week: Share what you do in Second Life (or in real life) to relax and reduce stress.
Mine involves my sailboat and throwing navigation out the window. I pick a direction and set sail. I never fail to find something interesting, be it someone’s home or boat or plane or island. I might just drop anchor a ways off, set the windlight to something pretty and lay down on the deck, trying to forget for a while about whatever has me chewing on my pencils.
I’m wearing a double from erratic! This is my favorite bikini and it comes in SOOOOO many cute textures. For my Maitreya body, it’s probably my go-to ‘kini. The denim shorts…I have oodles and oodles of denim shorts, no lie, but these are my “sailing shorts.” I think it’s the bandana tied about the belt loop; it adds a flavor that makes me feel like it should be worn doing something outdoorsy…like sailing!
I think most everyone has heard a little something about Luxe Box closing its doors, and I’ll talk about it in more detail in my next post. Until then, I’m just gonna chill and take in this…tropical island/winter wonderland.
What I’m Wearing:
Bikini: Leffe by erratic
Shorts: Carrie by erratic
Hair: Mary by Fabia
So there’s another one of these like right below this, so I hope you check it out too, but let’s go! Today’s(being Monday, December 18) #SecondLifeChallenge from my hero, Strawberry Singh, goes something like this:
Here are the instructions for the #SecondLifeChallenge this week: Share a picture or video of a winter scene in Second Life. Tell us a bit about the location and/or what you are wearing.
Like Cary Elwes (who looked SO hot in this movie) said, “As you wish.”
I’m at the Garden of Whimsy Winter Wonderland, which has everything a winter explorer could desire – ice skating, snow, sleighs, beautiful trees and some wonderfully colorful and festive light displays. I spent the evening exploring and had a fantastic time.
I’m wearing a turtleneck sweater from the Paper Arrow, which came in the December Luxe Box! If you remember, the November box was something of a disappointment for me, but December has REALLY made up for it. I’m working on another set of pictures wearing some of my favorites from December, look for that post soon!
So after all that exploration in the cold while wearing a really, really weather-inappropriate denim miniskirt, I returned home to find my close friend, Danni, under the Christmas tree for a romantic cuddle. I don’t know that I can think of a better way to wrap up an evening spent exploring the winter wonderlands of Second Life.
What I’m wearing:
Sweater: Cozy Turtleneck by Paper Arrow Co (December 2017 Luxe Box)
Skirt: Denim Skirt by Blueberry (January 2017 Luxe Box)
Boots: Autumn by REIGN
Hair: Irenka by Truth
My blogging mentor and inspiration (whether she knows it or not), Strawberry Singh, is taking a short break from her blog. I really hope she’ll be back soon. Since I wanted to keep up with the #SecondLifeChallenge, I went back through some of her old challenges and picked out one that sounded fun. It’s based on one of my favorite drinking games, Never Have I Ever. If you’re not familiar, each player takes a turn stating something they haven’t done (usually something tawdry or untoward) and everyone else in the group who has done the tawdry or untoward activity mentioned has to drink.
I’ll wait while you all go pour some tequila shots and then we’ll continue…
Go on now…
- Never have I ever had sex, in Second Life. Oh no. I have. Often. Usually more than once a week. Sex is fun! I can’t help it.
- Never have I ever visited a sex sim, in Second Life. – I’ve done this too. I visit the Keyhole and the Public Shower on occasion. There are a number of clubs and beaches that don’t specifically self-identify as a sex sim, but given the ‘meat-market’ atmosphere and the amount of public sex that goes on, there isn’t much difference.
- Never have I ever been an escort or stripper, in Second Life. – And now I’m three for three. I recently returned to my position as a dancer and escort at Bare Assets. And you should go there, even if it’s just to hang out. While I’m not necessarily trying to shill for the club at which I work, everyone there is really nice and it’s a fun atmosphere. That and my boss and colleagues are out of this world gorgeous and some of my best SL friends. (Love to Crezi & co.!)
- Never have I ever been in porn videos in Second Life. – Yay! I get a temporary reprieve from the drinking! I’ve never done porn videos. (I’ve been in a fair amount of pictures that are little more than porn, but never a video.)
- Never have I ever done things that may be illegal in the real world, in Second Life. – Pass the lime. I’ve enjoyed some mind-altering substances in SL of which the local law enforcement would not approve.
- Never have I ever created an ALT for secret activities, in Second Life. – Well…yes and no. It wasn’t for secret, illicit activities. It was just to try out something different in SL that I could never do with Keyli. I actually kind of miss it.
- Never have I ever had a one night stand, in Second Life. – See answers 1 and 2. I’m running out of salt.
- Never have I ever been part of a roleplay community, in Second Life. – Not necessarily a community, but I would REALLY like to. I’ve kind of experimented as a temporary visitor in a few roleplay sims, but I’m just not ready to completely commit to it – I just don’t have the time.
- Never have I ever discovered a new fetish, because of Second Life. – I have. And, no, I’m not going into it.
- Never have I ever done things in Second Life that I wouldn’t admit to my friends or family. – All. The. Time. I would say my First Life friends and family know about 1% of what goes on here in my SL.
So that’s, say, 7.5 out of 10. After more than seven tequila shots I would be on the floor, and the hangover would be brutal. So what’s your score? Are you more think than I drunk you are?
What I’m wearing:
Top: Romy by Blueberry
Skirt: Kyla by Blueberry
Bra: Peek-A-Boo by Reborn
Shoes: Dolly Plats by REIGN
Hair: Scout by Truth
- Google your Second Life name in “quotations” and share your results. 1,160 results – not bad, considering I don’t really have much of a presence.
- What are the first 5 links that come up? My Flickr (it’s easy enough to find, but some of the photos are NSFW), my blog, my Avatarbook (which I don’t really use), my DeviantArt (which I created to enjoy a new friend’s artwork years ago), and the staff Facebook page for Hathor’s Garden, a club at which I was a Hostess a few years back.
- Click on the “Images” tab and tell us where the first 5 images are from. The first is my Avatarbook profile picture (and WAY out of date), the second is an Avatarbook profile picture I liked, the rest are all from the blog.
- Click on the “Videos” tab and share your results, if any. Not a one.
- Click on the “News” tab and share your results, if any. Again, not a one.
- Did any of the results surprise you? I had completely forgotten about the DeviantArt page, and was surprised Hathor’s Garden appeared before my own FB page.
- Are you satisfied with your results or wish they were different in any way? I would have liked for my Facebook page to appear in the top five and for my blog to appear first.
A wink and a grin because the phrase ‘googling yourself’ still makes me laugh.
What I’m Wearing…
Top: Aira Hoodie by Ricielli (At Cosmopolitan)
Jeans: Silvia Ripped Boyfriend Jeans by Addams
Shoes: Baby’s Breath by #EMPIRE
Hair: Anouk by TRUTH
Earrings: Madeline by Amala
Time for this week’s #SecondLifeChallenge! I love that Strawberry Singh has brought this back, mostly because it kind of jump starts my sleepy, back-to-work brain when I’m trying to think about exactly what to write on my still-getting-started blog.
This week we’re getting started talking about signs of the Zodiac, and while I’m not a believer, it’s still entertaining (and a bit odd) how it manages to hit the target. Here we go!
What is your Zodiac sign?: I was born in late July, making me a Leo. I’m not sure if this also explains why I prefer cats to dogs, but I like to think so.
Do you believe in Astrology and read your horoscope often?: Not at all. I do think it can be kind of entertaining to read once in a blue moon, and, I’ll confess, it’s been fodder for some humorous banter between my friends and me. I know I shouldn’t poke fun; these are important beliefs to many people…I just can’t get behind them.
What are some of the traits of your zodiac sign and do you feel they reflect who you are?: Following Strawberry’s lead, I’m going to post up some info from astrology-zodiac-signs.com website for Leo and then we’ll analyze it a bit:
Strengths: Creative, passionate, generous, warm-hearted, cheerful, humorous: This is a bit creepy. I like to think I’m fairly creative when I put digital pen to paper and I take a lot of pride in emoting and speaking in a way that engages the reader. I don’t know that I have too many pursuits about which I’m passionate; I’m prone to discover something, burn bright over it for a while, and then slowly burn out. There are just a few things that I about which I’m really spirited. I’ll put warm-hearted and generous together – I strongly believe in being kind to people, sharing what I have, taking care to respect the beliefs of others, and ‘paying it forward’. Any example I might give will probably read like ego-stroking, but thinking about those examples makes me happy. And humorous? I crave a good joke, whether it’s gigglesnorting at one or (trying) to make those around me chuckle. Concerning the latter, I think I succeed more than I tragically fail.
Weaknesses: Arrogant, stubborn, self-centered, lazy, inflexible: Oh boy. I can be a bit of all of these, but really only one of them is a constant. I know that I am occasionally prone to thinking very highly of myself; I’m somewhat ashamed to admit it, but I have, on occasion, looked down upon some of the avatars that have approached me (often romantically) because I didn’t feel they were ‘up to my standard’. Not really the new Second Life resident – that’s someone I want to spend time with and help and expose to some of the cool parts of our world, but the avi that’s been around for six years and just can’t be bothered to mold their avatar out of anything more than a few freebies. I feel kind of rotten just writing that, but I know it’s true. It’s definitely a character weakness; not everyone has the time/money/knowledge/inclination to really make an effort to improve the appearance of their avatar and I should be more accepting of that and less superficial. I think all we can do when we recognize a shortcoming in ourselves is try to improve, and my journey there continues. I’m going to have a sip of tea and move on before this particular topic gets out of hand. Occasionally, I will dig my heels in and proclaim that my way is right and any other opinions are wholly invalid. The one that REALLY hits the mark here is lazy – I will endeavor to find a quick and easy way through nearly any task, and if I’m able to procrastinate when given a task, I’ll cheerfully do so.
(*Forgive me for getting so verbose there! I should save the self-reflection for a less public arena.)
Leo likes: Theater, taking holidays, being admired, expensive things, bright colors, fun with friends: I don’t know about the Theater; I can kind of give or take going to dramatic productions. Do movies count? I love a good movie. Taking holidays? Really only if it’s something about which I’m interested. Not long ago I took my niece to a comic convention and LOVED it. We had a ball and made so many good memories that I think we’ll talk about forever. On the other side of that spectrum we have a recent camping trip with my family; I silently groaned and complained every minute, and there were times I actually longed for the office. Expensive things? YES YES YES! While I try to be a somewhat frugal shopper, I take a great deal of joy in having beautiful (and often pricey) clothes and accessories, gorgeous and fun sailboats, lovely furniture and décor, and all the fun, expensive things that make SL one of my happy places. In first life it’s clothing and accessories and make-up and toys (not that kind! I mean phones and such!). All that said, I still haven’t pulled the trigger on a 5000L$ Bento mesh head…). Finally, I am never having a better time in life both First or Second than when I’m with friends. I love being the hostess and I love being a guest with good friends and loved ones.
Leo dislikes: Being ignored, facing difficult reality, not being treated like a king or queen: Oh boy. I think this example might kind of cover all three: I don’t think anyone likes being ignored, but back in the days when I earned my salt (that is a phrase my father uses – isn’t it cute?) dancing at a little club called Bare Assets (quaint, no?), I used to really bristle and burn when another dancer was being favored while I danced and flirted and winked to no avail. I stormed out of the club more than once because I could feel my temper rising and I didn’t want to let it boil over. The difficult reality of the situation is everyone has their own taste and there are certainly others who ‘did the job’ better than me. While I’d like to be treated like the queen of the castle (or, in this case, the, ahem, gentleman’s club), it doesn’t work out that way.
So what did I learn here? While there are A LOT of coincidences, no doubt, I think many of them are practically universal. No one likes being ignored, and difficult realities suck. I would say most everyone loves a nice holiday and expensive things are often beautiful and fun! I still don’t believe I’ll favorite an astrology site on my web browser, but maybe there’s at least a little something to it.
What I’m wearing:
Outfit: Kristi by Addams
Hair: Imani by TRUTH
Earrings: Le Kitty Earrings by Noodles
Rings: Bayswater Rings by Astralia
Glasses: Rasa by Kumaki Glasses Style
PS: Thanks to my good friend Phillie for helping give this shot some beautiful life in the background and for just being awesome!
The blog that, for my money, launched a thousand blogs belongs to someone I admire immensely, Strawberry Singh. She’s started doing a series of what she calls Second Life Challenges, and I figured that, as I’m launching a new blog and sure would like to follow (albeit far, far behind) in her impressive footsteps, I’d follow suit.
So, without further ado, my Seven SL Facts:
Fact #1: In an effort to (somewhat) curtail my SL spending, I give myself a weekly allowance of Linden dollars. Any other Lindens I want to purchase have to be offset by a change in RL spending like brown-bagging lunch or making coffee at home.
Fact #2: If I’m logging off SL around my RL bedtime, I change my avi into PJs. These vary from sexy to plain to silly, but I like the immersive feel of actually changing into something appropriate for sleep and laying down in bed before closing out. It also makes me smile to log in while wearing jammy pants and a cute tank.
Fact #3: I lose clothes in my inventory. It happens all the time. Even with a semi-organized clothing section of my hoard, cute items go missing and I’ll come across them weeks or even months in the future, having forgotten I owned them.
Fact #4: I really enjoy sex in Second Life, but not just for the more obvious mental, emotional, and physical stimulation it might provide. I really like it as a writing challenge; I love trying to find new ways of expressing myself and painting an erotic verbal picture.
Fact #5: Well, we’re in the neighborhood, soooooo…I have worked as an escort in Second Life. There were times I really enjoyed it, and times I would much rather have been doing something else (much like any job, I suppose), but it’s a part of my SL history. I wouldn’t say I regret it, because I had some fun and made a considerable amount doing it, but there are times I do wish I had spent that time with friends.
Fact #6: Some of the best conversations I’ve had in Second Life have been while naked and lounging about in sims that are notorious “meat markets.” I’ve had really captivating chats about books and film and fashion and sex and pop culture and Second Life itself while lounging about starkers on a beach towel.
Fact #7: I have a bit of Bento Head anxiety, and it’s ironic because it is for many of the same reasons I had Mesh Head anxiety in the first place. I remember being afraid I’d “lose my look”. To an extent, I did – my avi today looks VERY different from my avatar at the beginning of the year. However, I LOVE my look now – I think I look fabulous and I don’t want to lose that. I’m worried that if I do pick up a Bento Mesh head I will lose my current look. That said, however, part of me wonders if it would be a similar experience – would I find a head/shape/skin that I felt captured “me” better than my current look?
That and the 5,000L$ price tag – that would be the single largest purchase I’ve ever made, eclipsing my Bandit 60 sailboat at 4,500. I may wind up needing a new shape as well, which, I imagine, would be an added cost.
What I’m Wearing:
Top: Slashed Top by Cynful
Pants: Sylvia Yoga Pants by Blueberry